3 Ways You Can Help Your Loved Ones to Talk About Mental Health Issues

Funding or no funding. Mental Illness is becoming the biggest robber of happiness and one of the largest causes of self-harm and suicide. I take the view that unless we all start looking around us and within us. We will miss the point and continue to think the Government are responsible for our mental health and wellbeing.  They are responsible for making sure that the services are provided to as many people as possible, but the issue still remains early intervention is everyone’s responsibility.

“We are our brother or sisters keeper. we are in the best position to identify and trigger the support that someone who is struggling with mental illness can be identified early.” 

No matter how much money is thrown at the problem unless with can I identify those who are struggling within our households or communities, that funding with not go as far as it needs to go?

I take the view that unless we are, we confront the issue on our doorstep and help people to seek early intervention the issue will only get worse. So what do you do if that someone is your spouse, daughter, sibling or friend? You notice there is a change in their interest. You ask them, and they say they are fine.

Do you care to ask again? Ask them what they want or need? Ask them how they are doing?

Here are my three top action points:

  1. Ask twice; it is not intrusion:


We are all geared to the automatic response when someone asks how we are. So how about asking the second time. I get a lot of people to open up when I ask twice because, for some reason, they see that I genuinely want to know how they are. For example, I say: (1) Hello, how are you? I will give them time to respond, and that will lead to conversation continuing, but if I see that there is something that doesn’t seem right. I through in another question (2) How are things with you? Or What is going on? I bet you get the point. At this stage in most cases, the guard is down. Now you can’t do this all the time; you just need to judge the correct moment.

Actively listen and Mirror:

mother-and-daughter-3281388_1280It is human nature to want to be the one that is sharing and talking. Active listening is a tough one for me but since I trained as a coach I have learned the importance and now actively use this technique. When you are having a conversation, be the listener, mirror the person talking and look at them to show you are actively listening. Mirroring is when you follow their posture without being too obvious and awkward of course. You will be surprised how much they will let out. You will then be able to notice the bleeps in their voice, and you can then follow up with a short question to get into the bleep conversation more. Sometimes a problem shared is a problem solved. You may not have the answers for them. But talking therapy is useful and doesn’t have to be with a trained professional alone.

Be a cheerleader:


Take time to cheer someone on. We live in a world full of pressure moments, and everyone is striving to work hard. Unfortunately, we also live in a world where people only notice and comment on what is wrong. That can be demoralising; it can dent confidence and lead someone worse things. So how about if you are the one that is different. Your child gets a D, cheer them on, at least they took the exam, right? You employee writes a report which is not to your standards. It is not the end of the world, right? Praise them and then give them feedback. Do not do it for them, humbly advise and empower them to improve it. In both cases, they will thank you for it and thrive to work harder because they feel empowered.

I hope you will find these tips useful. If you have any questions for me, please comment below or contact me here.

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